Finding a soulmate is a big deal; and deciding to spend the rest of your life with him/her is even bigger deal. Growing up, we all have imagined how our life would change once we find our happily ever after. But, as you get closer to that goal, you might realize what else you need to achieve before you get married.
First things first – ask yourself if you really want to get married. Do you really love your partner? Or do you just like the idea of getting married? Are you ready to tie the knot and commit to someone till the end? Or are you just fascinated by the idea of wearing that designer lehenga and have a big fancy wedding?
After asking yourself these questions, if you still want to get hitched, you should definitely make a checklist of goals before marriage.
Here are 7 things to do before marriage:
When you are single, you are not bounded by responsibilities and you can (almost) do whatever you feel like doing. You feel like splurging your hard-earned money, do it, you’ll maybe regret it by the end of the month, but do it anyways. You feel like experimenting with your style, now is the time to get those highlights or get that tattoo done, get on with it. Take up a new hobby, no matter how weird it is to the world. No one will admonish you for all this, except your mom.
Go on a solo trip
Travelling solo allows you to know yourself better, by discovering a side of you that you never thought existed. However, if you can’t travel alone, plan a trip with your friends. It will not only help you break the monotony and clear your head, it’ll also give you an experience of a lifetime.
Accomplish something for yourself
Whether you want to pursue a post-graduation degree or want to build your own business, you can take it up before you get married. Even if you are working a 9-to-5 job, you can work harder to achieve your career goals to accomplish what you desire. Now is when you’d have the most time to spare for yourself, spend it to achieve your goals, make yourself proud.
If you stay with your parents, move out for a few months or years to experience how it feels to live alone. It will teach you how to manage the household on your own, without needing your mom for every single thing. The best thing about living alone is that you can live on your own terms, even if you have to manage everything from your laundry to your finances, only you are responsible for your state.
Become friends with your parents
After all those rebellious teenage years, now is the right time to make peace with your parents and get closer to them. During your childhood, they required you to be disciplined and during teenage, you thought you know better; now that you too are an adult, you can finally develop a friendly relation with your parents. After sharing your thoughts and beliefs and listening to theirs, you’ll know how much you can learn from their experience and the way they see life.
Get your finances in order
No matter how much you splurge when you are single, you will have to learn how to spend responsibly before you get married. Pay off your debts if any and develop a habit of saving, at first it may seem too little to make a difference, but trust me, once you get the lump sum, you’ll realize its worth. Investing is also a great option, take some financial advice from your dad, not only will he be proud, he’ll also guide you through it with a lot of enthusiasm.
Learn to love yourself as you are
If you don’t love yourself, why would someone else? Nobody is perfect, but you just need to accept yourself for all the bad things, and appreciate all the good ones. Make your strengths stronger and weaknesses weaker. You always have room for improvement, but don’t push your limits so hard that you lose all of your self-respect in the process of becoming a better version of yourself.
Lastly, the most important thing that you need to remember is not to make being married your sole identify. Your partner is to support you and help you shine brighter, not to dull your shine and destruct your purpose. Before getting hitched, make sure you know yourself inside out and know what you want from your life.